Showing posts with label HIV/AIDS. Show all posts
Showing posts with label HIV/AIDS. Show all posts

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Saving Women & Girls from Slavery in India

Focus on: Sunita Krishnan

"For two years we nurtured Amina, with all the care.. with all the compassion we possessed."

Despite, or perhaps because of, her history of being gang-raped as a teenager and beaten up many times for her work, Sunita never ceases to act as a spark to awaken the world.

One of the most passionate speakers in the world, Sunita Krishnan fights to save women & girls from Trafficking & Slavery in India. To listen to her talk about rescuing children or to read her blogs is a true inspiration.

Below is one of Sunita's recent blogposts:

When Protectors turn Predators

Amina is a 12yr old special child. She came to me as a 10yr old... gang raped and mute. The police just dumped her with us for safe care,as no case could be booked. The child was hardly in a position to point out who had barbarically torn her!

For two years we nurtured Amina,with all the care..with all the compassion we possessed. We even got two of my staff trained in National Institute of Mental Health(NIMH) to gain skills to take care of special children.

Two years later Amina could speak a lot of words...she would come running to me…hugging me tight not allowing other children to come near me until she had her full.

As Amina grew older we felt quite at a disadvantage as we were less equipped to handle Amina and 7 other kids in the home who were mentally retarded. After a lot of internal discussion all of us in the team felt it would be better for these children if they were admitted in a home for special children, where they would be educated/trained with other special children. I was told many organizations were even specialized in providing occupational therapy which will in the long run make them employable. And hence it was decided to shift Amina and other special children to specialized home …convinced that would give them a better opportunity for mainstream life.

Our search for a good home was filled with challenges and hurdles. The name ‘Prajwala’ became a curse as it meant not just an anti trafficking organization but also a group who took care of a large number of trafficked HIV positive persons. Most reputed homes point blank refused admission on the presumption that Amina could be HIV positive(incidently she is not). We even took the support of Commisioner, Disabled Welfare to pressurize organizations who had Grant in Aid from Government of India to take these children. We were rejected by all. Most homes were willing to get into the bad books of the authorities but not take these children!

A newspaper classified ad that appeared in a leading English daily was the first ray of hope for us. Child Development Mission,an organization willing to take special children had advertised. We rushed to meet the organization. The friendly reception of the staff and the over enthusiasm of the team to welcome us at that time was really heart warming (after all the cold reception this was a welcome respite). But for some unknown reason (maybe it was our paranoid outlook) we decided not to admit all our children in the same place. Only Amina was admitted. Our team members informed the organization that we would be visiting every week to monitor Amina’s welfare which the organization strongly discouraged. We concluded as we had an organizational policy maybe they too had regarding visitors for residents.

In spite of the discouragement our team members went once a month to visit Amina. The first two meetings was uneventful. On the third visit we realized the organization had shifted its home. Panic set in when no neighbors could tell us where the organization had moved out and all phone numbers we had did not work. During this time I was traveling so Deepa my Director,Programs organized a team of senior members to hunt the organization. On a lead she even organized a decoy operation which finally lead us to the main functionary of Child Development Mission. The phone conversation with this gentleman was perhaps one of the most rude conversation we ever had. Only after our team threatened police action that this man mellowed down and gave us a cock and bull story of all children being sent away for Puja holidays and only Amina being housed in a care taker’s house.Such was our anxiety for Amina’s well being that we did not even question him why he had not informed us of the same…or why they had shifted…or what has happened to all phone numbers.In spite of all the persuasion he would not divulge the information where Amina was kept,just went on repeating that we could pick up Amina the next day. That night was the longest night for all my team members

The next day our people rushed to the designated spot, a small room in a slum. The sight that awaited us was shocking to say the least. A totally unrecognizable Amina…with swollen face, swollen legs, barely able to stand …she was sitting in the room with a old woman who looked like a beggar. We brought back Amina, more shocks awaited us we when thoroughly examined her body. There were marks of bruises, burns all over her body. The greatest helplessness-Amina could not tell us what exactly happened.

Amina is now undergoing treatment for the last one week. We are planning legal action against the organization.

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And I as I sit and mull over all these events, filled with untold guilt for the trauma we have caused in Amina’s life, would it have been better if Amina was with me without any real options for mainstream life…(until I am skilled to handle this issue…I don’t know how many more skills I need to master before I can handle it all)…living in a safe place but without any clear future ahead.

But my larger feeling is of anger and outrage.

When people/organizations claiming to be protectors and saviors turn predators doesn’t the world lose faith in the word TRUST.

...There's so much desensitization that has happened, so much normalization of exploitation that has happened, so much internalization of trauma that has happened...

Re posted from A Safe World For Women

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When protectors turn to abusers: - by Sunitha Krishnan

Monday, December 20, 2010

The Story of Valentina


“So when life hands you a lemon, you can either toss it aside and wait for an apple or you can take life as it has come to you and make a glass of lemonade to share with others through the positive light and influences that you emit” -Jill Eisnaugle


An estimated 40,000 people with HIV live in St. Petersburg, Russia.


Valentina, an HIV-positive resident, was only 34 years old when she realized that she needed help. With the help of MAMA+, a Russian non-governmental organization Doctors to Children with the support of the UN Trust Fund to End Violence Against Women, Valencia was able to overcome her struggle.


She was a soon to be mother who had contracted HIV a few years earlier from her late drug-abusing husband. Valentina suffered from financial issues, depression and was concerned for the life of her unborn child. With the efforts of MAMA+, which strives to provide medical and social services to HIV-positive pregnant women and new mothers, her life improved. When her daughter was born, she was pleased to learn that the baby had not contracted HIV.

Soon after, Valentina experienced yet, another obstacle. After giving birth, Valentina’s new partner became very violent. “The worst thing was that our little daughter was constantly exposed to danger, living between two fires,” she recalls.


She turned to MAMA+ once again for assistance, and was soon able to move to the programs Halfway House for Women with Children in Difficult Life Situations. This helped her regain control of her life. “With psychological support from MAMA+, I could become emotionally more stable. My daughter became much quieter and more sociable," she says.


Valentina began building a new future for herself and her daughter. She is a courageous women who, today, lives on her own with her daughter and works as an assistant nurse at a hospice for people living with HIV. In addition, she counsels other HIV-positive women and makes home visits to HIV-affected families to offer advice and material support.


Since 1996, The United Nations Trust Fund to End Violence against Women has supported critically needed programmes and services in 124 countries. It relies exclusively on voluntary contributions, but the demand for funds outstrips supply by far. In 2009 alone, the Fund received $857 million in funding requests, but could offer only $20.5 million in grants. Make the UN Trust Fund your cause this holiday season.


Source: http://www.saynotoviolence.org/around-world/news/mama-helping-hiv-positive-women-rebuild-their-lives